Boys can be whores

I'm the first girl to cry foul when I see a boy get away with something a girl could never do. I notice more and more things the double-standard applies to everyday. I know one day I'll have to just lay it down and know that girls can't get away with EVERYTHING that boys can. I was just thinking aloud the other day about it. I wondered why are young girls encouraged to remain chaste, good and pure while fellas are encouraged to explore (with the opposite sex that is). It's weird that a girl can go all her life being careful about who she hangs with, what she does and how she's viewed to keep her sexual integrity. A guy the same age can whore it out without even thinking about how girls view him. A whole life is spent by each doing this and when the two finally end up together who wins? That's right the guy wins. He had all his fun in his younger days and now he's ready to settle in with a wife. A wife who (hopefully) didn't whore it out in her youth; a wife who is now vulnerable to whatever disease her husband may have contracted. A wife who has to accept the fact that her man has been with way more women and has probably done everything there is to do sexually with them. She can't surprise him (or maybe she can) because she's had less experience. However, she's stuck with whatever's left of the man's desire for a woman. That's okay? I'm not saying girls should be encouraged to whore it out when they are young but young men shouldn't be encouraged either. Everybody should just chill out. God knows I don't want to end up with a man who's been around the block so many times he's worn a path in the ground.

Bikes in the Street

I'm from Oregon, a eco-friendly place filled with lush, green landscapes and recycle bins. The city has a "do something good for the environment" attitude about everything. So I grew up around a lot of bike lanes and Earth day celebrations. Bike lanes are something I wish I saw nowadays in Texas. I've always had a indescribable hate toward people who rode bikes in the street. People who think they are riding in cars; people who signal with their arms and stop at the light in the middle of the road during peak traffic. Yeah, those people. Too many times, I remember riding 2mph in the car with my parents behind some idiot on a bike. What was worse sometimes that idiot was riding alongside a bike lane. I don't care how much patience you have this will make you lose it one day. When I moved to Texas, I loved how no one rode bikes like that. I would never have to worry about seriously considering ending someone's life because they were holding me up riding in traffic. I've seen so many people on bikes out in traffic lately it makes me wonder. There aren't bike lanes here but there are plenty of sidewalks why don't people ride on sidewalks when sidewalks are available? Even though I'm sure it's perfectly legal for bicyclist to ride in the street among regular traffic isn't it dangerous for that guy on the bike to be riding between cars going 3o or 40 mph? As the person on the bike, I'm not sure I would trust everybody behind the wheel to respect my bike. If hit and seriously injured I could only take legal action against whoever hit me after the fact when it's too late. I would love to see people on bikes use the sidewalk when it's there instead of opting for the street. In the end, no one in a car really cares that your on a bike they just want you out of their way.

Customer Service

Anybody out there work in the service industry? Anybody out there truly believe in the phrase, "the customer is always right"? I didn't think so. Two weeks ago, I had an encounter with a customer that wanted me to perform something remarkable. I work in an office at a university and I deal with students all the time. I picked up the phone and instantly recognized the voice from when he called before. I remembered his voice because he did the same thing last time. Anyway, he had a question and I had no clue what the answer was. He said he had called someone at the university before and they told him the answer. The thing was he couldn't remember who he called or what they said. I took me almost 10 minutes to try to get him to understand that no matter how much rewording he did to his question he wouldn't be able to get an answer out of me because I didn't know, no matter how many times he asked for the guy in the office he would still be unavailable and most importantly I wouldn't be able to read his mind to tell him who he called in the entire unversity, which services 30,000 plus students, in the first place.

Yesterday, I was at Burger King when some guy went up to the front counter to yell at one of the workers. He keep saying, "Do they listen back there, do they listen?!"to a bewildered girl. She was shocked and didn't know what to say because apparently she had nothing to do with the order. I think the guy ordered from the drive-thru and came inside after he discovered his order was messed up. Had that girl been a complete stranger on the street I don't think he would've came at her like that. It was a bit disrespectful and I've been in her shoes before so I didn't appreciate it. Even if it is someone else's mistake don't lose your nuggets over something like a hamburger. I don't care how bad life is please don't take it out on others. We've all got something going on behind the scenes.

Don't expect a miracle out of people who are just doing their job. Make sure you evaluate yourself before you go blaming someone else for their incompetence when it was your impossible command that they were trying to satisfy.

Keeping in Touch

I don't know what it is about keeping in touch that makes me run the other way. I'm not anti-social I do like talking to friends and relatives on a regular basis it's just that the whole concept of keeping in touch gets on my nerves. I tend to make it a chore. Then once it's a chore I don't want to do it anymore. I feel like there's an unwritten rule somewhere that says you have to call someone after a certain amount of time to catch up on everything you missed in their lives or else you're not a good friend, niece, grand-daughter, ex-roomate, etc. I just don't know what that time frame is. The end result: I go without talking to people for months for no apparent reason.

I have a friend from high school who lives in another state she and I talk on a regular basis. Regular meaning that we talk just enough to know of the other's major life-changing events like ("Oh, I got engaged") but not everyday stuff ("Geez, I dropped my toothbrush in the toilet again"). She could call me and we'll talk. Then a few weeks later I get this tingling urge and something in my head goes, "I think it's about time to call her," but I never do. The tingling continues and I blow it off time after time. I can do this for months. I'd rather loose touch with a friend than follow the urge and dial the number. It's ridiculous and pitiful. Then I look like an inconsiderate prick when they call me days, weeks, months later talking about how they haven't talked to me in FOREVER. I can't help but feel guilty.

Then once someone does call me after some time I know it's never going to be a short converstation. I always feel like I have to make up for not calling them by staying on the phone with them for 45 minutes to an hour in order to catch up only to realize all that was done about 15 minutes into the conversation.

On the other hand, sometimes I don't hear from people for ages and then they call me. I don't feel bad about them because in my head I'm thinking they're probably being just as lazy about calling me as I am about calling them. Those people I don't have to worry about disowning me. It's a miracle I still have friends at all. Just kidding but I never could get the keeping in touch thing right.