Tuesday, September 28, 2010

If your going to cheat, let's be real about it

By now you know that I'm very sensitive about the double standard. What is viewed as okay to do by a male in a relationship is an absolute deal breaker with a female. Now, I get it. Men and women have quite a few differences. Although I do believe intellectually we are equals, I am aware of all the subtle differences we have physically and emotionally. I can't expect scenarios to play out the same way for me as they would a male in the same situation. With that being said, I still do not understand the difference between a woman cheating and a man. When a man cheats, it's usually just shrugged off, it's what expected of the male species... they cheat right? The woman can make a big deal out of it but it seems like people get sick of it after a couple days. When a woman cheats, she is a low down dirty no good ho-bag who doesn't deserve the very breath in her lungs. At least that's how it is in the movies.The man acts like he cannot believe that a woman is capable of wanted anyone else but him. I think it's crazy to even portray anybody like that. Can you actually be in a relationship thinking, truly believing, that the person you are with has never been attracted to anyone but you and will never be attracted to anyone else? Really? You never see a plot line that involves the man taking the cheating, lying woman back. No, she's untouchable, he gets as far away from her as possible. It's like the woman is no good, as if she's bad produce, unable to be useful ever again. Then on the flip side when a woman finds out her husband cheated on her, she looks like an ass for thinking the same thing, a la Miranda in the Sex and the City movie. There is always the option of whether the female should take the male back versus no consideration whatsoever by the male. What do you think? Have you ever seen the situation play out differently, movie or real life?

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